When I talk to people who have messed things up, the enemy tells them that their family would be “better off” without them. They are engaging in self-hatred. They contemplate divorce and sometimes suicide. The lie they are believing is that they can’t do better, they can’t be better, and they can’t overcome the damage they have done.
I’d like to talk a little bit about my limited understanding of how God convicts us to change in comparison to how the enemy shames us. I heard Pastor Joby of 11:22 put it very well – if what you’re hearing is a message of condemnation, it’s from the enemy, not God.
If God is who He says He is,
Here’s something to consider – what if those negative, intrusive thoughts in your head – about yourself, about other people, about your mistakes, your looks, your weight, your job, etc. – don’t actually belong to you?
When I talk with my clients about this it can be incredibly freeing. You’ll have to bear with me,